People have to see clearly as they navigate through life. They have to move from feeling superior to being humble in their daily walk. There must be a realization that all are equal in the eyes of God. In accepting this, people will identify with the down-trodden and seek out other these challenges. To accomplish the quest of what it truly means to be human calls on us to embrace the afflicted. We’re able do so through our five senses, although one may be apt to take the center stage in our life. Some however believe the gift of sight is more important.
Henry Van Dyke (1852–1933), an author, educator, and clergyman observed, “In the progress of personality, first comes a declaration of independence, then a recognition of interdependence.” Some declare their independence once they mature with experience, and become more knowledgeable. This stage they achieve through disciplining their senses. They realize that life is about community and service, building up the body of Christ, and serving others.
Looking at Others
Some people don’t like to be stared at and consider this act disagreeable. Others become suspicious of those who are looking intently at them. To women especially staring is considered impolite. They feel that men are undressing them. That’s why there are proper and improper ways of using one’s eyes. By taking discreet and occasional glances are a more polite way of looking.
Charlotte Bronte (1816–155), an English novelist and poet felt, “The soul fortunately, has an interpreter – often and unconscious but still a faithful interpreter – in the eye.” Although Bronte’s remarks are somewhat correct, it isn’t the entire truth. Many Christians believe the best interpreter of human behavior is the Holy Spirit. Our eyes aren’t developed enough to ascertain the truth. Authentic truth has to be divinely inspired.
Adjusting our Gaze
As people talk to each other they do so while adjusting their gaze. Some do so consciously, but at times when they glance, it’s unconscious. In this process a comfort level is established for both parties as they communicate. Looking into a person’s eyes mustn’t be seen as a contest of wills, intimidation, nor browbeating, but as a genuine concern to be understood.
We ought to reach out to those in need of help. Our friends may be fellow Christians who need encouragement. Some members have to face their church’s officials or others in need. They have to let them know their true feelings about the church’s policies. Some problems are matters pertaining to family life. John Paul 11 (1920–2005), a Roman Catholic Pope explained, “The great danger of family life, in the midst of any society whose idols are pleasure, comfort and independence, lies in the fact that people close their hearts and become selfish.” John Paul’s admonition makes it possible for churchgoers to practice their communication skills, so that when issues arise they are prepared to handle them.